It was a cold Friday evening. After a two-week break, we decided to go to the gym for Friday yoga and meditation. I didn’t intend to have a two-week break, but I was so upset with the yoga instructor. Last time, when I was there, she asked me to move and create space for the people who were late. Not only were we in the middle of the practice, but also there was not enough space to move. I moved unwillingly as much as I could, but I was very annoyed. I lost my concentration and motivation. Late students were not the only reason that upset me. Small things added up.
There weren’t any ground rules, even though the gym was one of the best ones around the town. For example, I never understood why people came late to the class, and how the instructor could ask us to create a space for them. Most of the time classes were already packed, so we did not have enough personal space already.
Second, during the practice, most the men took their shirts off. Not only did it bother me, but also my husband hated it.
Third, I felt like sometimes people came to yoga to socialize. They were chatting nonstop with each other; this was one of the reasons we never started on time. For us, Friday yoga and meditation were a quiet time that we needed after a long busy week. It was a preparation for a nice weekend.
Since we had tried some other places, we knew that this was the only convenient place, so two weeks later we were back. We arrived early to be able to pick a space next to a wall. Our plan was not to have any distractions because if we were close to the wall, no one could ask us to move anywhere, right? As always, people were chatting when it was time to start, but I was in a good mood, and I didn’t care much. I set my smart watch up with yoga option, and closed my eyes. It had been five minutes or less; I realized someone was tapping on my shoulder. The same instructor was asking me to move closer to the wall. I asked her where she wanted me to move; I was already very closed to the wall. However, she got so angry, and scolded me by saying that it was not a private class with a hand gesture. I did not move, and she walked away while murmuring something I could not understand. I was well aware that was not a private course. However, it was not free either. We were paying $140 per month. Unfortunately, she was the one who was not aware that the classes had limited space; we also needed personal space.
My husband and I looked at each other and decided to stay for the class. However, it was not over yet. Our mindful yoga teacher’s agenda was about the people who occupied two people’s space and who did not want to be part of the community. Her anger and frustration were in the air. When we were leaving, she avoided us, and it was the last time we were at that gym.
The sad part about this situation was when we had meditation the instructor would have talked about being respectful and mindful. However, when it came to real life, she was not respecting our time and practice. She let people in half of the practice and interrupted the flow. Also, when we showed resentment, she didn’t listen to us, and didn’t try to understand our concerns. She acted like a drama queen. It was not a perfect Friday evening for me.
We quit the gym, and made sure that their management was aware of the poor classes they were providing. I was sad because I had a mindset that If I wanted to do Yoga I should be at the class. It took me a while to find out that I wasn’t creative enough.
We stopped our yoga practice. After a while, my husband started to complain about his back-pain. So, we decided to do yoga at home. We tried several YouTube yoga videos, but some of the people were all about yoga apparel sponsoring, some of them did not have enough clothes on them, some of them talked too much, some of them showed their cat and dog, etc. Basically, YouTube did not work for us.

During the corona virus lock-down, we decided to create our own yoga moves. We realized that it was even better than going to classes, and watching random people online, who didn’t seem to have qualifications. We started to do daily yoga.
I also downloaded some apps that teach yoga, which can be adjusted based on our needs. We could choose our own practice by selecting type, level, boost and length.
So, why did not I think about this before? I guess sometimes we are not aware of the solutions, which are right in front of us, because this simple app was what we needed. Why it took us so long to think about apps, I do not know. I experienced thinking outside of the box. We were just stuck on one solution; we assumed that the only way to practice yoga was taking physical yoga classes. However, as everything else, taking virtual classes are even better than physical classes. I wish I had known this before.
Here are the two apps that I’m happily using, and highly recommending to anyone:
Calm is a meditation app for improved well- being. It has so many meditation topics that you can select. They offer a 7-day free trial.
Down Dog is a yoga app. It also offers HIT, Barre, Prenatal yoga. They also offer free trial. If you are student or teacher, it is completely free until July 1st.
The yearly cost for both of these apps together is cheaper than monthly cost of the gym. I will add a short video from one of our yoga practices. If we can do it, you can do it too. So, next time please don’t let small things bother you, and try to think outside of the box. The little things in life matter too, so take some action before they lead to big things.