The Second Step is Creating your Vision Board

One of my favorite goal-setting steps is creating a vision board. The vision board can be a board where you add the pictures of the events, situations, and material things that you want to have in your life. In other words, it includes all the pictures of your goals.

Your vision board shows you the images of the things you want to achieve. This will create clarity in your mind, and it will be a great visual reminder of your goals. As we all know ‘A picture is worth a thousand words.

My husband and I started to make a new vision boards a few weeks ago. As you see from the pictures, we gathered all the magazines we had, lit the candles and got a cup of hot tea. After preparing everything we need, such as scissors, tape, and glue, we went through all the magazines to find the pictures for our vision boards. Also, you can google the images of the goals you have in mind and print them, or draw them. It may take several days to complete, but it is a nice and enjoyable activity. It is a living project; you can add new ideas, or adjust some of your goals. There is no right or wrong.

We could not complete our vision boards yet. Hopefully, we will complete them this weekend.  Here is my husband’s first vision board, and I am very proud of him 😊. Once I complete mine, I will share it too.

The First Step is Setting Goals

Do you have written goals? I am asking if you have written goals rather than goals because if they are not written, they will not go beyond wishes. Forbes magazine had an article called ‘Neuroscience Explains Why You Need to Write Down Your Goals If You Actually Want to Achieve Them’. It explains in detail the importance of writing your goals.

There are hundreds of books and articles about setting goals, but still, it is not part of our lives. There are many reasons for it. First, we have not been taught what goal setting means by our teachers or parents. Second, most of us still do not believe that setting goals makes a difference in our lives, and do not even try. So, this leaves very few people who set goals and achieve them. The research results vary from study to study, which indicates the number of people who are setting and reaching their goals are less than 10%. For example, the University of Scranton’s research suggests that just 8 percent of people achieve their New Year’s goals.

I consider myself one of the lucky people who started to set goals and achieve them at an early age. I always loved writing my goals and plans, since I was a little girl. Sometimes, my elder sister would read them and made fun of me all day. Most of the time, I would feel embarrassed, because even when I was a little girl, I had big dreams and many future plans.  So, these would provide enough material to my sister to tease me. I have not changed, and I keep setting weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. I achieved most of my goals eventually. I believe that writing them again and again, without getting tired helped me a lot.

If you haven’t tried yet, you can easily start applying it to your life right now. It is worth trying. The simplest way to set a goal is by writing your dreams in a notebook, on a paper or anywhere you can periodically review. The only recommendation I could give is to write truly what your heart desires.

Another way to create your list of goals is by using a method called SMART.  It is an acronym of Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound, which gives you brief guidance for wording your goals.

Another key point is that setting open ended goals do not take you where you want to be. For example, ‘I want to lose weight’ can be one of my goals, but if we word it by using the SMART method, we can have a clear vision and direction. So, the SMART version could be ‘I want to lose 10 pounds by July 1st, 2019’.

Also, I’ve just started to use a gap analysis method. Since I am an engineer, I wanted to use a method that related to my work 😊.  I am hoping that will help me to achieve my goals faster.  It is quite simple as well. Define your current status, dream about where you want to be, and then, take all the necessary actions that can help you to get there.

Here is the simple version of one of my recent goals, and moving forward, I can’t wait to share the results.

For the cost of a cup of coffee you can save thousands over the years!

For the cost of a cup of coffee you can save thousands over the years!

We all know that we need to save money for our future. We never know when we may need some extra money. For example, I am a money saver. I took after my grandmother and I am so grateful to God that it is in my genes. Since I was a little kid, I used to save my chocolates and candies. I never remember eating them on the same day. If my parents gave us 2 pieces of chocolate, I would save the second piece for another day. Sadly, my younger sister would know it and would steal it from where I had hidden it. I would be so upset, but still continue saving everything I had and tried to find better hiding places.  I was saving my chocolates and candies because I did not know when I would get more.

I have not changed a bit.  I save In the same way today, because I can’t predict the future and we all should. Not to mention the economic unknowns and fluctuations, and the circumstances we may face, we need to save more than ever. It is not only that we may need some money, but also to have a decent life, to feel secure with our finances, it is necessary.

On the other hand, saving by itself is not an answer. Most of us do not know how to spend our money wisely. Many of us, including me, do not have a budget plan. We just spend our money according to our mood. For example, if we do not feel like cooking, we eat out, or when we see something new or trendy, we buy it without thinking.  We also have our upbringings that influence our approach to money. Even though I know the value of money, I still sometimes overspend.

Above all, new technological developments, online shopping opportunities and paying with the credit card is not really helping us. For example, we do not carry cash anymore.  Most of us use credit cards and we are not aware of the amount we spent. The credit card transaction or payment methods are exactly the same when you spend $1 or $100. We spend little by little and at the end of the month, all our income pays our credit card debts.

In the past, when we used to pay with cash, we would end up counting while paying which would give us some warning and make us think again before we purchase anything. I’m not saying that everyone is spending their money and not saving, but things can get better. We can get better results with some minor changes.  So, I decided to use a program called Account Patrol ‘https://www.accountpatrol.com/’ where you get notifications about your spending, the amount of money you have in your account, your out-flow and in-flow, and credit card updates.  It has a nice dashboard that can give you a big picture of your financial status. It is really eye-opening and very helpful. You can see the trends, categories, daily, weekly, monthly spending, and utility bill reminders. Furthermore, Account patrol sends you e-mails and text messages periodically. Another benefit of having this program is if there is any suspicious credit card transaction, it warns you and sends an alert.

It motivates to see my spending and savings in a graphical form. It summarizes and categorizes the expenses, and creates more awareness for me about where my money goes.

So far, I love using this website. I heard that its app is coming out in September. I believe that it will improve my financial status and I feel better when I am paying my credit card bills.

I highly recommend this website to anyone who wants to benefit from this amazing tool. The website also gives you a chance to try it for 30 days for free. And later on, it is only $5 a month; the same price as a cup of coffee.

‘Senna’ A truly great documentary, regardless of your interest in racing!

Marriage changes a life: the way you think, the way you live your life, and the interests you have. For example, I would never think that I could enjoy Formula One before I married my husband. Not only did I start to enjoy watching formula one, but also, I listened to an audible book about it and watched a beautiful documentary. The documentary was about a Brazilian formula one racing driver Ayrton Senna. It was worth watching, even if you are not interested in racing sports, because it had so many life lessons you could learn.

Young Senna started his racing career as a go-kart driver. His parents became aware of his talent and supported him. He found his way up to Formula One. This is where his unhappiness and success met. He was very talented, and one of the elusive drivers who could drive very successfully in the rain. He was an extremely ambitious driver, who won the world champion title 3 times. Actually, it would have been 4, but because of the politics of the formula 1, he was not given a championship title in 1989. During the race after his collision between Prost in Japan, he rejoined the race from a wrong route and he was disqualified. If you watch the documentary, you will see the full story about this.

The best part of the documentary was the flow; they truly did a great job documenting his life with his real videos until his tragic accident. I felt like, I was seeing through his life bit by bit and living with him his troubles, his competitions, his dreams and hopes, and the pressure he put on him. He was happy when he won his first world championship.  Later on, I did not see real happiness.  Even though he won 2 more world championship titles, his life was focused on the politics, competition between his teammates and his ego to become fist.

What I learned is:

Be aware of the politics but do not involve, argue or blame anyone. Do your best and be professional all the time. When you watch the documentary, you will feel the same way I do. So many times, the situations he was in were heartbreaking, how he defended himself, his actions and how he showed his frustrations. I would do the same thing, but arguing with powerful people, showing your anger, talking and thinking about your enemies, will not solve anything other than creating more conflicts.

It also made me question my life. Life passes while we are trying to have better jobs and investments for our future. Most of the time we forget to enjoy the journey while we are trying to reach our goals. Senna loved racing, it was his dream to become a world champion and he succeeded 3 times. He wanted more even though he was tired of the politics, money issues, and the competition.

Finally, if something does not feel right, trust your gut. It is not. The day he had an accident, he did not want to race for many reasons, but he still did. He had a nice conversation with his doctor before the accident, which was very sweet and sad at the same time (see the conversation below). Also, I am adding a Wikipedia page where you can find the reasons that he had more pressure and stress than ever in his last race. He could have backed out of the race, but he did not. Wikipedia explains very well; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayrton_Senna

  • the serious crash of his young compatriot, Rubens Barrichello, during Friday practice, whom Senna visited in hospital;
  • the death of F1 rookie Roland Ratzenberger during Saturday qualifying;
  • being 20 points behind in the Drivers’ Championship;
  • suspicion of the rival Benetton B194 car using an illegal traction control system;
  • the poor performance of his Williams FW16;

Quotes

His Doctor Sid Watkins: [after the death of Roland Ratzenberger] Ayrton got very, very upset and cried a bit, and that’s when I said to him, you know Ayrton you’ve been three times world champion, you’re the fastest man in the world, and you like fishing. So, I said why don’t you quit, and I’ll quit, and we’ll just go fishing. And he said Sid, I can’t quit.

I loved the movie and definitely recommend it. My husband rated the movie as 8 and I rated it 9 out of 10.

Benim Guzel Ailem

My family is very important to me. Even though I do not talk to them very often, I think of them and want them to be happy. I only call my mom once a week, and she gives me all the latest news about my sisters and relatives. Yesterday, when I called her, she was busy. She answered her phone, said hi, and handed it over to my younger sister. It was nice to talk to her, but I realized again they live their life focused only the present not on the future, and they are concerned with other people’s expectations.

They do not have long-term or short-term goals, saving plans. They still do not know it is their responsibility to make themselves happy. I told her to practice meditation, create a vision board and dream without limits. I can’t remember who said this, but there is a nice saying, ‘The only thing that stands between you and the realization of these dreams is you’.

I hung up the phone after promising her that I would create for them a mini Turkish blog, so they can learn mediation, yoga, how to set goals.

‘Saving Mr. Banks’ is a beautiful movie!

It was a great movie to watch on a Friday night. It was about P.L. Travers’ early life and her struggles, how she agreed with Mr. Disney to make a movie of her special book ‘Mary Poppins’. I was not aware of how Mary Poppins, which had such a long and desperate history, was created.

After I watched the movie, I read IMDb reviews and learned that the movie did not reflect the reality of Mr. Disney and Mrs.Travers relationship over Mary Poppins. Even If I knew this, I would still watch it because it was a unique and beautiful story.

Just to be aware, it was a sad movie. I would consider it a drama more than a comedy. To be honest, it was not our intention to pick a sad movie. The only reason we chose it was because Tom Hanks was the actor.

I definitely will watch Marry Poppins again after realizing how it was filmed and the story behind it.

My husband rated the movie as 7 because of the conflicts between the movie and reality. Since it was not a documentary, I would rate the movie as 9 out of 10.

Quotes

P.L. Travers: [Being driven in a cart to Disney’s office] I am perfectly capable of walking!

P.L. Travers: My point is that, unlike yourself, Mary Poppins is the very enemy of whimsy and sentiment. She’s truthful. She doesn’t sugarcoat the darkness in the world that these children will eventually, inevitably come to know. She prepares them for it. She deals in honesty. One must clean one’s room, it will magically do it by itself! This entire script is flim-flam! Where is its heart? Where is its reality? Where… is the gravitas?

[She throws the script out the window]

Live a Well-Lived Joyful Life by Using Design Thinking

Agile is the new motto for the Automotive World. At first, I did not like how it sounds, and I did not even know what it means. I wanted to avoid it, but it became unavoidable when we started to hear it in our executive management meetings, and from our customers.

You will see this word more than once on any job descriptions if you are looking for a new job, so I decided to learn it.

What does ‘Agile’ mean? It means to able to move quickly and easily. That’s what everyone wants in their work and personal life, right? This is especially true in an automotive environment where we work globally with customers, suppliers, and different manufacturing facilities. On my search for how to learn and apply the Agile mindset and method, I discovered that there is also a Design Thinking methodology. This is where my story begins.

In March, I took my first Design Thinking training, and I found it very helpful. It was not only the training that made it interesting, but also as a part of the training, we had to facilitate our own workshops.

I must admit it was challenging, but it opened my eyes and made me more aware about my work environment. We applied the design thinking methodology to our real work problems. I was so lucky to have a wonderful workshop team which I admired more during the workshop for their contribution, engagement, and ideas. They inspired me more, and I promised myself to learn more and include them in many more workshops.

During the workshop, we applied the 6 steps of the Design Thinking method. The first 3 steps were the problem space, and the last 3 steps were the solution space.

When you google, you will find so many sources, studies and examples. I am adding the Wikipedia link ‘https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Design Thinking’, if you want to read more about it.  Also, Stanford University has a beautiful introduction about the Design Thinking, and a 45 min YouTube video which can provide you more information.

Here are the Design Thinking steps;

  • Empathize (Understand and Observe) – The step where we focus on understanding of our users’ need
  • Define (Synthesize) – The step where we find out customers’ pains and gains
  • Ideate – The step where we generate ideas to solve the problem
  • Prototype – The step where we are designing prototype / solution to the problem
  • Test – The step where we review our prototypes with our customers. We will iterate these steps as needed until we find the best solution

To apply the steps, you do not have to have any design thinking knowledge; there are tools that can be applied to each step. I was so lucky to have 3 great mentors and they prepared all the tools and materials for the training I took, and I used the similar tools for my own workshop.

At first, it may take time to connect the dots and understand the process, but once you follow the steps, you get the point. For example, at the beginning I was not quite sure why the design thinking has a long problem space, since we knew what the problem was, and to solve the problem we were using the design thinking method. Let’s face it most of us always assume we know what the problem is, and we always have an initial solution in our mind. Design thinking teaches us that we may not be aware of the real problem. It helps us to focus on our users, to understand and empathize with their needs. At the end, they are the ones who need to be happy with our products and services.

When you follow the steps and reframe your problem, most of the time, you may find out the problem is not really what you were assuming. That’s what happened to me when I used design thinking methodology.

I also found out that we can apply the Design Thinking method to our personal life to create the life we dream. I did not think about applying it to my personal life until I noticed a book called ‘Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life’ at Barnes and Nobles a few weeks ago. I decided to purchase it. I’ve only read the first chapter so far. It already made me so excited to see what I learned at the workshop can be applied to our personal lives. Book is written by the Stanford’s professors which makes it more accountable for me. Once I complete reading it, I will write a review. Also, the next step is to learn the Agile Methodology. Along the way on my search, I feel like I will continue to learn so many other useful tools, and methods.

I believe that it is worth trying and see the impact of this method. It may show us better ways to find how to live a well-lived joyful life as it says in the book.

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